I have a friend that I grew up with. We were the type of friends that did everything together. We played on the same baseball and football teams, learned to swim together, joined Boy Scouts together, attended school together. We lived right across the street form each other so we were at each others homes daily most of our young lives. Like typical boys, we were always trying to outdo each other.
My buddy seemed to always outdo me. In Judo he achieved a higher belt. He got higher grades, he ran faster, hit more balls,etc. We both played college football (different schools) and he rushed for more yardage. He went to a D-2 school and I a D-3. He makes more money than I do now. I think my wife is prettier but that is up for disagreement.
We still remain very close. Although we live a thousand miles apart, we talk frequently and along with our wives, are Godparents to each others kids. Now for the meat of the story.
My friend is black. I think we have talked about our races probably 3 times in our lives. If that. But I am bringing it up here to make a point. We both have teenage sons. All of our kids attend private schools. Good academic schools where hard work is encouraged. My buddies son has a few black friends at his school. They call each other the "N" word as a greeting. This drives my friend and his wife nuts. He and his wife thought they would avoid that type of behavior at private Christian schools. We were all brought up not using that type of word and obviously do not like hearing it.
I spoke to him on the phone yesterday. I told him the "N" word is OK now. There is a new deragatory term for blacks. I made him laugh his rear end off. I told him to beware of bigots calling him a lemming.