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There is an old saying that goes: Respect is earned not given. Any kid who has participated in high school sports has probably heard that one. It means a lot.

Just because I have employees does not mean they will automatically respect me. Sure, they will do what I tell them to do because I sign their paycheck. Real impressive. None of that matters when it comes to respect. They call me Mister Robinson because I am their boss. Same point. Does not have anything to do with respect.

Rodney Dangerfield always clamored about not getting any respect. He, and others like him, may be missing a fine point that I pointed out in the first line of this blog. Further, anyone that needs to have the concept of how respect is earned explained to them, will probably never gain much respect. The cool part though is that there is no magic involved.

All of this brings me to the "revered" Senator from California. You know, the one who told the General that she has earned the title Senator, and that he should refrain from calling her maam, and start calling her Senator. This points out two very important concepts that the "Senator" does not know. First, as a so called leader of our country, she ought to understand that in the military, you call anyone above your rank either sir or maam. It is ingrained into you from your first day in the military. Basic 101, and anyone purporting to lead our troops should know that. The second concept that she obviously has no grasp of is respect. She can demand that the General call her Senator, and he must do it. She, in effect, signs his paycheck. She stated that she worked very hard to gain the title. That is debatable. When she asked him to call her Senator, she was asking for his respect. Wrong. Not how it works.

Respect is earned, not given.

 

Comment balloon 11 commentsKevin Robinson • June 22 2009 09:46AM

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Kevin,

Thanks for writing about this.

That was an embarrassing display.  It is nice to know that she loves that title so much.  This is clearly yet another person that appears to have lost her compass as to who she serves and why she is in Washington, it's not about her.

She is a disgrace.

Posted by Mark MacKenzie over 8 years ago

Kevin - very nicely stated.

Posted by Mike Saunders (Lanier Partners) over 8 years ago

Kevin, good post.  After 24+ yrs in the military, I still call women who may be in charge of what I do, or even to clients...."Ma'am.  It is a sign of respect.  To call her senator, doesn't necessarily mean he respects her, it is her title.  DUH!  Another bonehead arrogant woman.  I didn't hear the full clip, so I don't know if she addressed him as "General", but he could well have returned that comment to her. 

Posted by Bob Cumiskey, US Army Retired, Your Sun City Center, Florida ~ Realtor (A1 Connection Realty, Inc.) over 8 years ago

Great post and good point. Those that have to demand respect do not beleive in their hearts that there is any other way that they can earn it. Obviously earning respect is a foriegn consept to her, or should would have realized that it is a two way street. Treat others with respect and generally you are afforded the same luxury-Dinah Lee

Posted by Dinah Lee Griffey, Managing Broker Windermere Peninsula Properties (Windermere Peninsula Properties) over 8 years ago

Again, really good points from all of you. I look forward to checking back today to read the other comments-Dinah Lee

Posted by Dinah Lee Griffey, Managing Broker Windermere Peninsula Properties (Windermere Peninsula Properties) over 8 years ago

Kevin,

Another old saying "You can't buy class."

Posted by Hugh Krone, Realtor, Sussex County NJ (Weichert Referral Associates) over 8 years ago

She's a republican senator right?

Posted by Terry Haugen STAGE it RIGHT! 321-956-2495 (Stage it Right!) over 8 years ago

Terry - was that supposed to be humor?

Posted by Mike Saunders (Lanier Partners) over 8 years ago

Mike- Don't bite.

This Particular Senator does not deserve either title. I think she need to examine where her true loyalties lie.-Dinah Lee

Posted by Dinah Lee Griffey, Managing Broker Windermere Peninsula Properties (Windermere Peninsula Properties) over 8 years ago

The general's response to Madame Senator Boxer (D) was classy--her demand was not.  

Posted by Yolanda Hoversten, Broker - O Fallon, IL Real Estate (Berkshire Hathaway HomeServices Elite Properties) over 8 years ago

You may all have a point, but I doubt if he were in court, even he as a general, would not address the female judge as - "Ma'am"  

Posted by Michelle Viggiano, healthyhomeaz (Four Winds Healthy Home Carpet & Air Duct Cleaning) over 8 years ago

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