There is an old saying that goes: Respect is earned not given. Any kid who has participated in high school sports has probably heard that one. It means a lot.
Just because I have employees does not mean they will automatically respect me. Sure, they will do what I tell them to do because I sign their paycheck. Real impressive. None of that matters when it comes to respect. They call me Mister Robinson because I am their boss. Same point. Does not have anything to do with respect.
Rodney Dangerfield always clamored about not getting any respect. He, and others like him, may be missing a fine point that I pointed out in the first line of this blog. Further, anyone that needs to have the concept of how respect is earned explained to them, will probably never gain much respect. The cool part though is that there is no magic involved.
All of this brings me to the "revered" Senator from California. You know, the one who told the General that she has earned the title Senator, and that he should refrain from calling her maam, and start calling her Senator. This points out two very important concepts that the "Senator" does not know. First, as a so called leader of our country, she ought to understand that in the military, you call anyone above your rank either sir or maam. It is ingrained into you from your first day in the military. Basic 101, and anyone purporting to lead our troops should know that. The second concept that she obviously has no grasp of is respect. She can demand that the General call her Senator, and he must do it. She, in effect, signs his paycheck. She stated that she worked very hard to gain the title. That is debatable. When she asked him to call her Senator, she was asking for his respect. Wrong. Not how it works.
Respect is earned, not given.